In at number four on the thinking environment components is Appreciation.
Put away your bear hugs for a minute though, let's explore first...Appreciation is all about showing a genuine acknowledgement for the others person's qualities, not necessarily a big love-in. I realise it can mean a bit of digging deep in some cases, but stay with me for now.
Cast your mind back to the last time someone acknowledged your qualities...
- how did it feel?
- what did you do afterwards?
- how did your thinking change?
It might be a bit more of a spring in your step, a bigger smile or a bit more confidence, but there will have been a reaction. Those warm and fuzzy feelings feel good don't they? Nancy shares that a ratio of 5:1 appreciation:criticism is the Rolls Royce to aim for. I'm usually someone who is against ratios and targets like that, but I can see where she's coming from - let the good out way the bad.
Those nice feelings will help with free flowing thinking, getting people to keep positive and ultimately have brilliant quality thinking. So, next time you're with someone ask yourself, have you taken the opportunity to show your genuine appreciation?
This one kind of does exactly what it says on the tin so slightly short and sweet...bear hugs back out now.
Happy smiling x
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